Excellent video from a group of Warrington lads
https://www.warringtonguardian.co.uk...mental-health/
"The great fallacy is that the game is first and last about winning. It is nothing of the kind. The game is about glory, it is about doing things in style and with a flourish, about going out and beating the other lot, not waiting for them to die of boredom." Danny Blanchflower.
Might have been written by a footballer about football - but never a truer word............
Imploded on Wednesday. It's been coming for a while. They say no fool like an old fool. Just an insight for us all to learn. I was signed off sick with workplace stress. I hold a professional role in transport. I agreed to "keep in touch" gradually that became more intrusive until I cracked. I now need to build up again which started today with a mega walk with a mate. I have now turned the phone off. Learning from each other helps even old fools.
So just over 9 months on from this and yesterday I made a couple of big decisions. I'm in Germany at the moment, well actually sat on a train going to the airport to come home. This Covid outbreak has caused our site to be closed and I'm not hanging around to end up locked down here. The reason I mention it is I've decided now that I'm done with working away, I started to drift back to it last year instead sticking to my guns but the truth is, I hate it now.
The second thing I decided was that I'm going teetotal, as much as I've tried, and god knows I have, me and booze don't go together, so that's it, I'm calling it a day. Other than that, I hope everyone is OK.
Last edited by Angry Dave; 24th June 2020 at 08:45. Reason: Uber tired
Best of luck, you can do it
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Two biggies there Dave, go for it, but don't be hard on yourself if one slips a bit.
It can honestly vary quite considerably. Germany wasn't great but there wasn't much work about so it's a case of making do, and that's what I hate, being taken advantage of. I was thinking about Sweden last night and it's a very good package and as an employee, not a contractor which is a big thing but also giving me a way out of the oil industry so I'm going to at least take the interview if offered.
As for the drink side of things, I know it isn't going to be easy to change something that's been a big part of my life for over 20 years but that and work have been playing on my mind for a while, I know I've needed to make changes and now seems like as good a time as any.
Good luck with it, Dave.
All the best to all who are facing tough times, decisions, mental health challenges... takes a lot of courage to talk about these things - but often it's worthwhile1
...as a way of releasing stuff, letting go, being heard and knowing that there are others out there too facing tough times - and we're not always as alone and isolated as we might think... plenty of people who care too amongst it all.
Cheers, Chris
Best of luck Dave
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
Spot on Chris , McMillan nurses did it for me , always thought with others I was 'mentally' tough as teak BUT , the double whammy - the big c and then the Corona turned me into a nightmare which I hadn't realised , I asked I received and did everything asked , great people when needed and where they needed.
roy litherland it's happened i told you it would
I’m new in here, fellas. Just read your posts. Hope all works out for you. Tough times are sent to try us, no doubt. Good luck to you all
Dave,
Good luck - 2 big things here, achieving one or the other would be great, so don't feel you've failed if you don't hit both.
I don't know you, probably never will (live near Cambridge but from St H), so if you want a chat which would be confidential - DM me - I've been through a few things myself and just believe in paying it back as well as paying it forward.
Best of luck, and take it one breath at a time,
Ian
Hello mate, the teetotal thing didn't last long, I had a bit of wobble on Friday and got hammered but got my head together on Saturday and I'm ok with that, I'd already had a drink a couple of times but not to that extent. Fortunately I've come to realise what a great set of mates I have as I'd made arrangements for both Saturday and tonight which I cancelled and both fully understood.
As for work, well the job in Sweden came to nothing, I'm not really bothered to be honest but had an interview today for a role based locally which has got my interest, we'll see what happens.
The reason I post in this thread fairly often is that I find it helps me, but also I hope it's of some help to others who may be going through problems. Thanks for your kind offer, but I'm genuinely pretty good at the moment.
From one Dave to another- good to see you have a positive attitude. All the best for now and into the future
I've been wanting to write this all week. I'm really struggling at the moment, I'm drinking too much and can feel the depression creeping back in again. I think that's what's getting me down, I've been making an effort to do the right things and I can't seem to get it right. Tried to knock the drink on the head but that in itself makes me unhappy, tried a change of direction workwise but don't seem to be getting anywhere. On top of that it just feels like everything in my life is going wrong.
It probably sounds a bit self pitying this and I know I'm not that hard done to but it feels like life has taken a massive crap on my shoulder.